Five Characteristics That Immediately Suggest a Person is More Engaging and Captivating Compared to Most Others
In the realm of interpersonal relationships, there are certain qualities that make a person more appealing and interesting to be around. According to Lianne Avila, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who has completed Levels 1, 2, and 3 at The Gottman Institute, these behaviors include setting aside time for fun, expressing gratitude, showing appreciation, sharing affection, and engaging in stress-reducing conversations and empathy.
- Setting Aside Time for Fun: Actively prioritizing fun helps you stay engaged and lively. By making fun a part of your daily routine, you ensure that you remain vibrant and engaging.
- Expressing Gratitude: Fostering positive emotions like joy, contentment, and satisfaction by expressing gratitude for even the smallest things makes you more pleasant to others. A 2017 study suggests that this positivity is often contagious, making the grateful individual more enjoyable to be around.
- Showing Appreciation: Focusing on what you love and respect in others counters negativity and builds connection. By regularly expressing your appreciation, you create a positive environment that others are drawn to.
- Sharing Affection: Small affectionate acts like hugging or playful touch create comfort and bonding. These intentional displays of affection foster a sense of closeness and intimacy.
- Engaging in Stress-Reducing Conversations and Empathy: Taking time daily to connect by sharing highs and lows and showing genuine care strengthens relationships. By making an effort to understand and empathize with others, you build deeper connections.
These behaviors reflect key elements therapists emphasize to foster positivity, intimacy, and emotional reciprocity in relationships, making someone more enjoyable and interesting company.
Good people tend to cultivate positivity wherever they go, focusing on their thought processes and the present moment to counteract negativity and regrets. They are drawn to adventure and tend to travel frequently, sharing their genuine enjoyment of living and creating ripple effects of positivity in any room they find themselves in.
Self-care leads to a better sense of self and makes it easier to say no and set healthy boundaries. They talk about their travel plans with friends and family, and invite them to join them on their adventures.
The secret to a person being more fun and interesting lies not in trying to impress everyone, but in their authentic appreciation for experiences, people, and the countless small wonders that make up daily life. Avoiding negative people helps prevent draining one's energy.
People who are more fun and interesting to be around have a personality trait called openness to experience, characterized by being imaginative, curious, and artistic. A 2023 study argues that people who travel frequently are more likely to seek out new experiences and engage with different cultures, which can be seen as interesting to others.
In essence, the key to being more enjoyable and interesting lies in cultivating a positive outlook, expressing gratitude, showing appreciation, sharing affection, and engaging in meaningful connections with others.
- Consistently displaying an appreciation for experiences by traveling frequently and sharing that enthusiasm with others, fosters a ripple effect of positivity and makes an individual more appealing to be around.
- Engaging in regular self-care not only promotes personal growth but also aids in establishing healthy boundaries and saying no, thus making an individual more enjoyable company.
- Engaging in open and empathetic conversations about one's highs and lows can strengthen relationships and demonstrate emotional maturity, making an individual more interesting to be around.
- Developing a lifestyle centered on prioritizing fun, expressing gratitude, and sharing affection with loved ones can make an individual more engaged and appealing to others.
- Continuous learning and self-development, as demonstrated through active participation in education-and-self-development and fashion-and-beauty endeavors, adds depth and intrigue to an individual, making them more interesting to be around.
